Men who are just starting their dating life, and even those who have been in a long term relationship for years, sometimes fall into the trap we call a sex rut. It’s not that you’re not in the mood to make love. The problem is that the woman you’re with is somewhat lackluster in her response to your lovemaking.

So, what gives? Are you incompatible sexually or is there something lacking in your technique? Sometimes it’s a combination of incompatibility and inability to push her sexual buttons. Most of the time, men just ignore the problem, until it gets too big to handle and the sexual frustration starts to affect the relationship.

Instead of wishing that you were still in that stage when your relationship was sizzling and you’ve just hooked up, find out how to please your woman in bed so that she will never think of leaving you.

Daytime Foreplay

With the way our lifestyles are nowadays, it’s no wonder that some couples feel the romance is dying as soon as the routine of daily life sets in. You have to figure out how to find the time to romance each other enough to keep the flame burning. The solution is to romance each other during the daytime so that the sexual tension builds and carries over to when it’s time for bed.

For instance, give her a lingering kiss when you meet for lunch or caress her waist as you’re walking out of the house and into your car. Softly whisper that you’re looking forward to later. Whatever you can do to arouse her feelings of sexuality during the day, do it.

Tell Her You’re Going Down On Her

Some women assume that guys aren’t enthusiastic about giving a girl oral sex. You may even think about it now and discover that you can only do it for a while (because she might not go down on you if you don’t). If you tell her that “you’re hungry for her taste” or that you’re craving the sweetness of her womanhood, you can arouse her to a point of frenzy. What happens is that her imagination will do the work for you, and that’s a good thing. Make sure you tell her this when she least expects it, for best results.

Intimate Touching

Expressing your feelings through lovemaking is more than just sticking it in and going for it until you are done. If you think about it, people don’t need much to get aroused, while women will always need more. Don’t hesitate to touch your wife or girlfriend everywhere when you’re alone. Don’t rush when you’re exploring with your hands, so that she won’t feel like you’re just doing it because you want your gratification sooner.

Sex is the best way to replenish your love during a busy week. It doesn’t have to be monotonous and you can add as much romance to it as you want.

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So you want to heat things up a notch in the bedroom, but you find that your sexual stamina is just not holding up. Sexual endurance is one of those things that most men would love to have, but very few actually achieve it. In fact, shame, guilt and disappointment often accompany guys who fall short in the bedroom. Worst still, most of us are not comfortable talking about this shortcoming.

So what do you do if you want to last longer in bed? Well, these 3 deadly effective “P” techniques may just be what you need to give your stamina a lift!

Power Of Pleasing

The real purpose of sex should be in helping your partner enjoy the moment as much as you are (if not more!). One of the reasons why men are not lasting long enough is due to the fear or anxiety of not being able to sexually fulfill their partners. If this sounds like you, there is an easy way out. Instead of focusing on using your male anatomy to please her, why not engage the “whole-body” experience instead?

A woman does not need sexual intercourse to be erotically fulfilled, although that would be the icing on the cake. A woman needs emotional connection and above all, attention to her body on the whole – and not just her genitals.

So what does this mean for you? Simple! Tease her with words, and pay attention to the sensual areas and hot buttons all over her body. This will get her all warmed up before the actual deed, and more importantly, help extend your time in bed too.

Power Of Positioning

The next time you feel the uncontrollable urge to climax, think about what makes you feel good. This will help “debug” your quick orgasm reflexes. For many guys, the positioning of the hips plays a huge role in defining how long you can last. Thrusting with vigorous hip movements can push you to the verge of climax very easily, especially if you engage in the conventional missionary position.

Also pay attention to the positioning of your partner’s legs during penetration. If her legs are closed tightly, more pressure and stimulation will be applied to your penis glans and if you aren’t trained properly, you will likely last no more than a couple of quick minutes.

Try spreading her legs apart during intercourse, thrust more deeply and rub your pubic mound against her genitals. You will last longer and she will derive more pleasure at the same time!

Power Of Plateu-ing

There are four phases to a man’s sexual arousal. In the “excitement” phase, you are just getting erect and still very much in control of your arousal. At the “plateau” phase, you are fully erect, very aroused, but still in control. At “orgasm” phase, your arousal builds up intensely and the amount of stimulation tips over into ejaculation. The last phase is the “resolution” stage where your breathing returns to normal and your erection subsides.

The key to controlling your ejaculation is to extend the “plateau” stage. This means you need to maintain your levels of arousal without allowing yourself to boil over to a climax.

So how do you prolong the “plateau” phase?

First, maintain a steady tempo during penetration. Allow your thrusts to slowly gain momentum and when you sense you are fairly close to a climax, slow down, and if need be, withdraw entirely. Resume penetration when the arousal tapers off. Communicate with your partner why you are doing this. Her support with help you build greater confidence in your performance.

Second, try alternating between deep and shallow thrusting. Shallow penetration will stimulate the sensitive nerve endings within the first 2 inches of a woman’s vagina. Deep thrusting will present less friction and stimulation on your penis glans and help you rock on much longer!

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So guys, you got her number, you set it up, and here you both are. On the first date. Congratulations! Not! Any idiot can get a date with a woman, but what if you want to be dating her? How do you get from the first date to the second? Well, let’s start with what NOT to do. One step at a time, grasshopper.

Top Things Men Do To Screw Up A First Date – What She Said

How could a man screw up a first date? Oh, let me count the ways! John’s going to hate this, but I’m gonna say it – if a man asks a woman out on a first date and doesn’t pay, it’s a huge turnoff. Show me some effort, show me respect – and don’t show up late. Once again, I’m not saying it comes down to how much you spend – in this case it’s truly the thought that counts. That said, let me countdown the proverbial “Top Ten:”

1. See above. Have plan and have your wallet on hand. You don’t want to pay? There probably won’t be a second date. The last thing I want to hear the first time out is, “How ya doin’ for cash?” How am I doing? Fine, thanks to the $20 I have in my purse that I’m using to take a cab home.

2. Ogling other women. You want to eye that waitress’s ass? Do it on your own time. I’m not crazy enough to think you’re never going to look at another woman, but the first date isn’t the time or place.

3. Pressing for sex. If there’s a mutual attraction, it’ll happen in its own sweet time. A first date is different from a one-night stand. Know the difference.

4. Expecting your mind to be read. Did you have a great time? Call and say so! Guesswork isn’t sexy.

5. Talking about the ex. This is our time to get to know each other. Chatting about another woman isn’t high on my list. Keep the ex-girlfriend information to yourself until the relationship deepens.

6. Cell phone. Keep the cell phone in your pocket. Stopping to take a call, text or check your email? Not cool. Eyes and ears akimbo. If you’ve got a busy phone, enjoy the buzzing in your pocket and check your messages later.

7. Getting drunk – like really, really drunk. Do a few beers make you a little chatty? Great. Nothing wrong with a warm glow, as long as safe transportation is arranged. Irish Car Bombs and a Taco Bell run? No excuse for this behavior, unless your next stop is AA.

8. Referring to yourself in the third person. It’s not wrong – but it creeps me out. It makes me wonder what other personality tics you have tucked away.

9. Showing up with another person. It’s a date, not a party. Save the chaperone for the 8th grade dance.

10. Talking too much. Do you loooove the sound of your own voice above all others? Then you might as well skip the date and stay home with your mirror. Talking incessantly due to nerves is one thing. Extolling your virtues via a monologue is another.

Top Things Men Do To Screw Up A First Date – What He Said

It’s funny that Jenna said guys need to show up on time. I love showing up late for dates. I do it purposefully, because most women are always late, and I figure, I’ve got extra time, and why not make HER wait for ME? Anyhoo, here’s the list:

As a guy, you have to realize the cold hard facts. A man doesn’t choose a woman. A woman chooses a man. If you want a girl that’s a “10,” that’s fine, but why should she choose you? You have to provide her with something that no one else does. That starts with being interesting. Have opinions. Voice them, without being overbearing or close minded. Be someone she can’t figure out. Be mysterious, yet open. Chicks love that stuff.

1. Not taking the lead. It’s a man’s job to lead. Period. Most women (assuming they are feminine and not masculine in nature) want to be led. That doesn’t mean be a dick, but it does mean you are the director of the experience. As Chris Rock once said, “anything you mutter ain’t getting done.” Saying “Where do you want to go?” won’t get you anywhere. Saying “Oh my god. You totally need to try the Margaritas at [X], meet me there Sunday at 7:30” will work. If she can’t make it, she’ll let you know, but she wants a man, damn it. Be the man.

2. Being predictable. Ever wonder why women love those bad boys? It’s because they don’t know what’s coming next. They have absolutely no idea what to expect, and they love that. They need that. They crave it. It’s something primal for them, almost. Now I’m not advocating treating women like crap, but if you can offer them the best of both worlds, she’ll eat that up. Be mysterious. Tell her to pack a bag for the weekend, and refuse to tell her where she’s going. Always keep her guessing. She should never know everything about you. Always keep a little bit hidden.

3. Treating it like a job interview. I’m not saying don’t get to know her. I’m just saying I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen people out on dates, and they have all the sexual chemistry of a job interview. In Utah. I’m not saying you have to take her in the bathroom and do her, but you have to let her know you have sexual desire for her, and not be too shy about it, but not be too forceful either.

If I’m on a date with a woman and I don’t generate some sexual electricity, I will wind up in the friend zone (that is, if I am ‘lucky’).

4. Listening to her words, and not her body. Before you cut my head off, let me explain. Listen to her words yes, but pay extra attention to what she’s saying WITHOUT words. Often times her mouth will say one thing, but her body will say another. I remember going out with a woman on a first date and I thought it was going horrible. Why? Because she kept telling me how full of shit I was. Kept telling no, but her body was SCREAMING yes. Her eyes were super dilated, as if she was forcing them open to take all of me in, kept “accidentally” bumping into me, playing with her hair etc. I was shocked when I got a second date, because I was so clueless on the first.

5. Going too sexual too fast. Jenna said don’t force sex on the first date. I agree, but I don’t think there’s a set time frame for when sex is appropriate. The right time is when it feels right for her. That can be ten dates from the first time you meet, or ten minutes from the time you meet. It all boils down to how you do it, no pun intended. A one night stand is different that relationship sex. The difference can be summed up in one word: comfort. She needs a different comfort level for relationship sex. She wants you to want to want her, but for more than just booty. She needs to know that

6. Not setting up the second date. If you want a second date with this person, it should be set up long before you ask for it, midway through the first date ideally. Make plans for the second one, subtly. Start by dropping hints about amazing places to take her, restaurants that you know of (one’s that she’s never tried, of course), things like that. Relationships are all about planting seeds (not like that, you pervert). So sew them well.

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