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idatemarriedmen.com visitor m wants to know:
i would never really say cheating is ok,but cheating doesn’t have to be about sex,does it?
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no, its Not about sex sometimes, but they always Have sex
no, they might not like their partner is doing
No it doesn’t sometimes you just want someone to listen to you and offer moral support.
Never cheated but I am thinking it has alot more to do with the relationship they are in it jsut always ends up with them having sex
I don’t believe that anybody cheats just for the sex unless they are a sex addict that is truly deranged. The only people that enjoy cheating just for sex are those that enjoy treating someone like and object, and being treated like an object. Hopefully those people find eachother and not a mentally healthy person who could be hurt by the situation.
Most people who believe they are cheating just for the sex are usually too dumb to recognize their own reasons besides the sex, or just plain don’t bother to figure them out, they’re getting too high off of it, and to them, the unexamined life is definitely worth living.
And then, I suppose there are spouses who refuse to ever have sex, but still cheating isn’t the answer, therapy is.
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I believe that alot some affairs start with emotional connections. Maybe they don’t feel like they can talk to their spouse and they look for someone they feel they can open up to. Then it pretty much snowballs from there.
I think cheating is more about emotions and power trips than sex. If it were just about sex it could probably be fixed at home easier than going and finding someone else. But if it’s the excitement of the unknown and the feelings changing at home than it is much easier to find someone else to play the game with.
no not at all
No cheating doesn’t have to be just about sex although I think more often you hear about this kind because it’s hard to catch someone who’s emotionally cheating. To me cheating is about walking away from a commitment you made to another person because you refuse to do anything to improve the relationship. When you ignore the other person and get your needs met else where that to me is also cheating.
it always happens like that they use being drunk as a excuse its not they cheat cause they r sluts and cant b faithful to anyone mostly they cant keep it real with their self.
Nope. There is no other reason. It’s the sex. Don’t try to make it into something else. I guarantee you if the other woman/man doesn’t have sex after so long, they will no longer be the other woman/man.
I believe that people cheat because of the way the other person makes them feel.
After being in any relationship for a period of time, the thrill leaves.
I do believe that people cheating not bcos of sex. always the feeling come in first place then sex in the end . But most man think that their have affair due to lust and sex need, they confuse with the feeling and emotional should come in first to drive them to cheat
Cheating on somebody once out of lust desire would be soley for sex, but having an affair is a different story. If an affair begins i don’t think it’s really just about the sex, it’s about the emotional connection you share with the mystery person, a sort of intimacy and closeness that you may have once had with your partner but i guess eventually people can grow apart, they’re in a relationship but don’t really act like it are not happy, they meet someone else who can meet their emotional needs as well physical ones, so they fall in love again, feel alive again, feel good about themselves again, feel wanted/needed and attractive again.. it happens.
No its not they usually find something else that is missing in there relationship and sex is after. It usually has nothing to do with sex it starts with something else and evolves in to sex.
Usually it’s the emotional side of a person that starts an affair which starts the sex side. But I think that side is more for women and the sex side is for men. Men can have sex without emotion most women cannot. That’s why women like hookers can stay in business. The downside is some women will use sex for financial gain instead of true love. I think some just don’t understand how strong sex really is if it wasn’t you wouldn’t have people losing there marriages there jobs or there family over it.
Cheating and affairs are rarely about sex. The sex is a byproduct, but invariably, every single time, the root cause of the affair can be traced to needs the cheating person has having gone unmet. A need that may be viewed as trivial on one side may be something very important to the other and shouldn’t be ignored. This is why nonjudgemental communications is so vital to a relationship and where problems either begin or are solved before they become problems.
to me it is all about sex, yeah it might be some emotional problem to cheat but later on they are gonna have sex.
well i used to think it was only about sex but i know better now. some cheat for money,attention, the thrill, but i know for a fact that many cheat for companionship comfort
Cheating doesn’t have to be about sex. I think that some people are looking for emotional validation that they aren’t getting at home.
I think in our society we are taught that there is one person who will fulfill our every emotional need, and this is not realistic. We are also taught that we should only love one person.
I don’t expect my husband to fulfill every emotional need I have. I have friends and family members who fulfill emotional needs that he can not or will not fulfill.
I am also aware that either my husband or I might meet people who interest us. And we might fall in love with that person. BUT…
We also know how to cope with these emotions without forsaking our vows of monogamy. But not everyone has this knowledge.
We (as a society) are not teaching these coping skills to our children, just as we (as a society) were not taught them.
And I believe this is harming our society because it is expected that if you feel love for a person there is only way to go – into a sexual relationship. Because we are taught that committed monogamous sex is the ultimate expression of love.
So… We love them. We either cheat (which harms everyone) or we repress (which causes resentment towards our spouse).
There is no way to win.
I think people cheat because whom ever they are with can’t satisfy then mentally or emotionally