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Domination is something that is enjoyed by millions of people around the world. It is usually associated with whips, chains, leather and latex. Although these can be a part of this sex activity, the concept is more of an emotion than a physical object. Using a black leather whip and beating somebody to death is not the purpose of it. One of the biggest issues with this is safety. Making sure that you and your partner are safe and comfortable is critical to having a good experience in the bedroom. If you have an interest in domination, there are a several things that you should know beforehand. Here is a short guide to help you out.
What Is Domination?
Domination is a very basic term. You have probably already experienced this and didn’t even know it. The dominant partner is the one who is steering the experience. The antithesis of dominance is submission. If you tend to steer the experience or initiate sex more often then you are the dominant one in the bedroom. This is much different than the other aspects of your relationship. One of you could be dominant in the bedroom but submissive with everyday decisions like where to eat. The more dominant person in bed will be the one who changes the positions or sets the pace for the sexual rhythm.
The Appeal
There are a lot of reasons that people are into this. For some people with high paying jobs or social anxiety it’s easier to allow somebody to make all of the decisions for them. Giving away control is one of the biggest turn-ons for people who are into it. When you are making decisions all day, having somebody come in and tell you what to do is a change of pace that takes your mind off the pressures of work, school or other aspects of your life. Domination is an aspect of every part of society. It doesn’t matter who you are, you always answer to somebody. Having someone answer to YOU in the bedroom is an erotic way of letting loose and relieving the pressures of life.
Safety Matters!
When people first start out, they usually don’t take safety as seriously as they should. Safety is an essential part of every sexual experience, but it’s especially important with domination. Sex has a way of escalating. When you are comfortable with one aspect of sex you or your partner might try to implement something that you aren’t ready for simply because you’re caught up in the moment. Take precautions by implementing a safe word. A safe word is something that you would not normally say in the bedroom. “Falcon” is an example that could be used because you would probably never say this in the middle of sex. When you or your partner says the safe word you will know that they are uncomfortable with the situation or that they are in pain.
Trust Is Important
Trust is another issue with this, as you must trust your partner to not take the experience too far. Many people get off on finding a stranger to dominate them, but this isn’t recommended. Having a loving relationship with a little kink in the bedroom is healthy. Meeting somebody on Craigslist to tie you up and spank you incessantly is not a recommendation to endorse. Make sure that your partner are comfortable with everything by talking about it beforehand. Find out what they are not comfortable with so you know before you have sex. This is also a way to find out what really turns them on.
It is a great way to easily add a little spice to your relationship. It’s only natural for one partner to be more dominant than the other in the bedroom. If you or your partner is more dominant and it turns you on, talk to your partner about exploring the possibility of taking the dominance to the next level. There are very simple forms of domination that can be effective without the use of straps or whips. Holding your partners hands down or light spanking in the moment are effective without being too “out there.”
It’s important to remember that we experience domination every day through work and other aspects of our life. Getting off on it doesn’t make you strange. Bringing your fantasies to the forefront of your relationship can improve communication and your sex life. Talk to your partner about implementing more of this into your sex life and you will see a vast improvement in your closeness.
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Erotic massage can do wonders for a woman when getting her to think only about sex. Rub her belly like THIS to get her relaxed and HOT!
Why The Stomach?
The stomach is a very emotionally comforting place to rub gently and lightly. By lovingly stroking here, it will help her to feel nurtured, honored, and safe. And, because it can make such a deep and emotionally satisfying connection, it makes for a strong arousal point as well that can bring about sensual and sexual stimulation.
Make sure to be soft with your touch, as some women can be tender in this area. You always want to create pleasure, but if there is any sign of pain or discomfort, let up on the pressure you are giving with your hands, or discontinue massaging her here and move elsewhere.
How To Get Started
Start by placing both palms of your hands down over her belly. Begin the massage by using a sliding motion, alternating your hands across her stomach from side to side. Side to side is the best direction to go as up and down over the belly can sometimes create discomfort (another “going against the grain” situation). Continue this motion back and forth for quite a few minutes or as long as she is enjoying it.
You can extend your movement beyond her stomach area by reaching down over the sides of her body down towards the surface she is laying on when giving her an erotic massage. When you reach the bottom of this movement, wrap one or both hands underneath her back and then pull back up over her side and belly again, following through to her other side in the same way.
Another great movement for this area is to run your hands in circular clockwise motions around her belly. You can start at the center around her navel and then progressively begin making bigger and bigger circles around her entire belly until you reach the outside perimeters of it. Then, just continue massaging around and around in smooth, slow, soft circles. Doing this can be quite pleasurable for her and evoke many sweet and loving emotions.
Stretch Her Arms Too!
With your lover’s arms resting up over her head, place your hands on her arms just around the point where they connect to her chest muscles (just above her armpits). Next, move your hands up her arms all the way to her fingertips, and then lightly grab her hands and begin pulling her arms upward over the top of her body and then bring her arms back down to her sides and let them rest there. Continue with light strokes to her arms from your hands and fingertips.
Also, lightly stroking the sensitive skin on the insides of her arms where the elbows fold is another erogenous zone that women usually love and get turned on by (similar to the inside of knee fold area). Do a few sensual grazes with your fingertips to get her turned on.
Another way to stretch her arms is by holding one arm at a time in both of your hands while gently pulling and stroking upwards all the way to her hand. This will massage the long muscles in her arms as well as muscles in her shoulders and sides of her body. Remember to be gentle however, as you don’t want to pull so hard as to create discomfort.
You can reverse this move if you like and run your hand all the ways back down her arm again. Repeat this a few times and them move on the next arm and do the same.
An Extra Erotic Touch
A fun follow through to this as you end your arm massage stretch, is to pull her arm to one side so that you cause her body to twist slightly and expose her back. Once there, you can now massage her back in this nicely stretched position. Whenever you can stretch long muscles like this (such as the back muscles) it gives a more tension releasing experience to the receiver. Do a few strokes here onto her upper shoulders and middle back muscles in a vertical fashion (hands pulling upward with each stroke).
You can also do horizontal strokes starting from her lower back on up to her shoulders by mostly using the heel of your hand to massage with. Be creative and have fun with this one, but remember some people may have lower back issues and may not like this much twisting and stretching to their body. Check in and ask first before you try during an erotic massage.
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