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Five Famous Women With Troubled Marriages: Which Will Bullock Follow?
By LUCHINA FISHER from ABC News
As new details continue to filter out about Jesse James’ reported mistress, Michelle “Bombshell” McGee, the question now is what will Sandra Bullock do?
Since leaving the California home she shared with James and canceling her appearance at the European premiere of “The Blind Side,” Bullock has been staying out of sight, most likely at her secluded compound near Austin, Texas. Divorce, for now, is not imminent. Her rep told ABCNews.com that reports Bullock was interviewing divorce lawyers are “completely false.”
The first thing to do before trying to catch a cheating wife is see if the signs of adulterous behavior are there.
If you are asking yourself, “How do I catch my cheating wife” you may be getting ahead of yourself. If you have solid proof that your wife is already involved in an affair then you don’t need to read any farther. If you are at a point in your marriage where you have that terrible feeling deep down inside that your wife is cheating then it may be time to start looking for the signs of infidelity. If the signs are there then it is time to find out the truth so that the emotional turmoil not knowing can be put to rest.
For many men dealing with a wife’s infidelity can be something they don’t initially want to deal with. The emotional impact can be more than you want to handle and any decisions made to deal with the betrayal are entirely personal. Advice will come from any number of people including friends, family and coworkers but in the end only you know your true feelings on the issue and how best to deal with it. Read More→
Infidelity isn’t something people like to talk about — much less confess. Does anyone really want to admit cheating on a spouse, especially to a pollster. But the following poll results might help put in perspective the frequency and number of adulterers.
It’s tough to get a handle on how many of us are having affairs, given the inherent secrecy.
- 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.
- 14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.
- Younger people are more likely candidates; in fact, younger women are as likely as younger men to be unfaithful.
- 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses’ extramarital activity.
- 5 percent of married men and 3 percent of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse in the 1997.
- 22 percent of men and 14 percent of women admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past.
- 90 percent of Americans believe adultery is morally wrong.
- 50 percent of Americans say President Clinton’s adultery makes his moral standard “about the same as the average married man,” according to a Time-CNN poll.
- 61 percent of Americans thought adultery should not be a crime in the United states; 35 percent thought it should; 4 percent had no opinion.
- 17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.
Source: Associated Press
Two fascinating, powerful articles I’ve read recently (available here and here) have led me to revisit the issue of who is really to blame when a marriage collapses under the unbearable weight of what is normally an otherwise inconsequential extra-marital affair.
Are we justified in blaming the normally middle-aged man, who should have controlled himself? Why would he risk so much for so little?
Explanations are easy to come by, ranging from economics (He finally has enough money and status to be attractive to sexy young women at the peak of their reproductive power) to existential dread (he’s coming to terms with his own mortality by lashing out symbolically against his own impending old age and death) to the wife’s life cycle (she’s nearing menopause so he’s biologically driven toward the fertility of younger women). Each of these may have some measure of truth, but none answers the most pressing question: Why do men have such overwhelming hunger for variety in their sexual partners-not just at mid-life, but always?
The Coolidge effect has been discussed elsewhere. Essentially, it’s just a scientific way of saying men (like many male mammals) need variety in partners to maintain sexual interest. If the ghost of Calvin Coolidge weren’t haunting him, a man would simply buy a DVD or two of his favorite porn actress and watch it over and over the rest of his life. Knowing how the movie ends is hardly going to ruin the experience for him If you’ve never been to a porn gateway web site, you’ll be astounded by the variety and specificity of the offerings there: everything from “unshaved Japanese lesbians” to “tattooed redheads” to “overweight older gals.” Read More→
In the movies, the other woman is typically depicted as a young, delusional being who just fell in love with the wrong person. The married man, of course, is the user. He’s the great deceiver who disregards his marital vows in the effort to fulfill his deep, sexual lust. Right?
Although these stereotypes are popular, the truth is that the other woman may have a variety of agendas fueling her behavior. Depending on her age, social class and marital status, she might be carousing with another woman’s man for several reasons other than love. Below are the top five.
#5 She needs to feel powerful. This point is where I believe Monica Lewinsky falls. Sleeping with the President of the United States probably lifted her self-esteem and made her feel powerful. It’s a trap women fall into who like to sleep with high-profile men. They get their energy and life from an accomplished man instead of finding other ways to build themselves up.
7 positions to help you reach the peak every single time
— plus, a few extra tricks.
When it’s a mind-blowing, bed-rattling orgasm you’re after, keeping it simple is absolutely key. Sure, wild, crazy, never-knew-my-body-could-bend-that-way booty keeps your lust life exciting, but if the goal of the moment is to break pleasure records, you have to stick to the basics. “Trying to accomplish complicated acrobatics distracts you from the sex itself, putting your focus on how you can contort yourself, rather than on just experiencing the sensations,” explains sex educator Dorian Solot, coauthor of I (Heart) Female Orgasm. “When you want to climax, the simplest positions are often also the best positions, and with a few modifications, you can make them even more orgasm inducing than they already are.” Don’t worry, we’d never leave you hanging.
Rule of Cheating #10
- Have fun and enjoy yourself
An affair should feel good. If it doesn’t, find a better lover. Every moment should give you an unbearable lightness and sense of well being. When people start to ask why you seem so happy, tell them there must be something going around, and if they are lucky they will catch it too. Then wink, smile, and saunter away.
Rule of Cheating #9
- Communicate your needs and desires with your lover
Be sure that your lover wants the same things out of an affair that you do. Don’t get caught in a fatal attraction. Venus and Mars not only want different things out of marriages, they also want very different things from affairs. A man may say he lacks an emotional bond with his wife and needs that from his lover. What he wants, however, is a physical connection that provides sexual gratification. Women on the other hand want an emotional connection. They are happy to forgo sexual intimacy but not romance.
Rule of Cheating #8
- Involve your family with the new you
If you decide you want to improve your body and a gym membership is the answer, encourage your spouse to join the gym too. Keep your family involved in any changes you make to your physical appearance, spiritual well being, or professional life. Never embark on activities that will set you apart from the family or your spouse.
10. Take Her to an Art Gallery Opening
Art gallery openings are the perfect cheapskate’s date. They provide free booze, the heightened atmosphere of a premiere, and usually don’t have a guest list. A date at an art gallery will impress your lady friend. It will make you look sophisticated, creative, and passionate. The art will also help stimulate conversation. If you really want to ensure getting laid, do your homework and take her to an art gallery with sexually charged artworks. Some tasteful nudes will plant the seeds of sex in her head. You will also be able to work out your chances of getting laid by watching her reaction to the art. If she blushes, you can laugh it off and drop her home early. If she loves it, then you’re in with a fighting chance. Heighten the stakes by suggesting you go back to your place and recreate some of the images. Girls love to get creative, and this is a great way to get her naked.
9. Go Stargazing
A girl goes crazy when a guy gets creative and organizes a romantic date. One of the most romantic dates is stargazing. All you need is a car, a blanket, a clear night, and some stars in the sky. You may also want to throw in a cheap bottle of wine. Before the date, do some research on the different star constellations. This will give you something to talk about and make you sound passionate and intelligent. This type of setting is ideal for big conversations about life, love, hopes and dreams. Girls love this spiritual crap and you will be able to fake a deep connection. This coupled with the stars and wine and you’ll be getting jiggy with it.
8. Pretend You’re in a Band
Chicks dig rockers. Dudes who are in bands don’t even have to speak and they get laid. Being a rocker is also an economical way to dress. How many times have you worn expensive clothes to a club or bar and gotten nowhere while at the same time some guy who looks homeless is getting some mad action?
All you need to do to look like a rock star is go to your local thrift store and stock up on a pair of tattered tight jeans and a washed out AC/DC t-shirt. Couple this with a belt and unwashed hair and you’ll be in like Flynn. If you have some cash left over, add a fake tattoo for effect. Once you’re in ‘costume,’ go to a bar full of groupies, talk bullshit about your music and wait for them to flock. Read More→
Two-timing politicians, take note: cheating has never been easier. AshleyMadison.com, a personals site designed to facilitate extramarital affairs, now boasts slick iPhone and Blackberry versions that help married horndogs find like-minded cheaters within minutes. The new tools are aimed at tech-savvy adulterers wary of leaving tracks on work or home computers. Because the apps are loaded up from phones’ browsers, they leave no electronic trail that suspicious spouses can trace.
Even as public outrage boils up over the infidelity of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford and Nevada Senator John Ensign, millions of Americans are sneaking online to do some surreptitious cheating of their own.
Unlike Craigslist’s plain-Jane listings, AshleyMadison lets cheaters customize profiles, chat anonymously and trade messages about adulterous preferences — all in an effort to make cheating as simple as using Match.com.
The formula is working. AshleyMadison’s membership has doubled over the past year to 4 million. The Toronto-based site, which takes its name from the two most popular female names in 2001, the year it launched, enjoyed another big boost this week, following Father’s Day, when CEO Noel Biderman says men often feel underappreciated. Traffic to the site tripled on Monday. Biderman says there’s a similar boost in interest from neglected wives and girlfriends after Valentine’s Day. Read More→