Men and women are definitely equal in one way; both have an infinite capacity to screw up the first date! Embarrassing moments are far from gender specific and both men and women can make huge mistakes on the first date. So, without further ado, here’re the ladies’ top ways to ensure she never sees her crush again.

She said:

Being Clingy

Acting clingy is a HUGE no-no, whether it’s the first date or the hundredth. Embrace your confidence, not your fear.

Being On Your Cell Phone

Same cell phone etiquette goes here. Calling your best friend in the middle of a date won’t get you support – it will likely get you in trouble after your date overhears every word.

Not Keeping Cash On Hand

Despite my previous advice, do have some cash in your wallet. It’ll save an awkward situation if the “who’s paying” agreement hasn’t been sussed out in advance. You know what they say about assuming.

Being Fake

Don’t put on the “I’m perfect” act. We all know you’re human. The guy you’re seeing should be falling for you, not a facsimile of whom you think he wants to see.

Talking Too Much

There’s plenty of time to get to know each other, if all goes well. It’s really difficult to bounce back from verbal diarrhea, as the unpleasant name implies.

Flirting With Another Guy

Flirting with another guy while you’re out on a date is not cool – even if said date isn’t going well. It’s not in good form, period. You’ll come across as rude, a game-player, or both.

Acting Like You’re In A Relationship With Your Date

Don’t act like you’re already in a relationship. Slow your roll, honey! You don’t need to play games, but don’t go picking out China patterns either.

Being Late

If you’re meeting at an agreed-upon location, don’t be late. You’re playing into a stereotype, as well as wasting someone’s time.

Being Rude

Smiles, everyone! Whether it’s a match made in heaven, or less chemistry than a turkey in a freezer, manners still count. If your companion for the evening isn’t your dream guy, you can still be graceful about it.

Lying

Lying about your age or your career? Don’t. Save the padding for resumes and bras. If you get serious about each other, your guy will find out – and he may question what else you aren’t telling the truth about. Who wants to be branded a liar?

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Forcing It

You know what you want. A boyfriend/husband/knight in shining armor/whatever. You tell your perspective partner this. A lot. He’s going to get turned off fast. Let him know where you’re at, but don’t beat him over the head with it. Don’t think you’re his girlfriend until he says so. Period.

Seeming Interested When You Know You’re Not

If you’re into him, great. If not, don’t waste his (or your) time. Go into the date with a time constraint. No first date should last longer than thirty minutes. You’ll know in the first thirty seconds if you like him or not. If you want to stay past the allotted time frame, great! Then do so, but put one in place prior to showing up, show you both can eject if it’s not happening.

False Advertising

If you’re a small chested girl, show it. If you’re a large chested girl, show it. There’s nothing wrong with either, but I should know which I’m dealing with before I get the shirt off. This goes to all aspects of who you are. If you want someone who will love you for whom you are, you’d better start of by showing him who that is and seeing if he’s interested. If he’s not, move on.

Looking For A Road Map

If you ever find yourself wondering “where is this relationship going?” that’s a bad sign. The truth? You know where it’s going, you’re just not happy with it. Love isn’t something you question. It’s something you know. Asking for a sign is in fact a sign. Not a good one.

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Kissing is one of the most intimate things you can do with someone and sometimes it can be even more titillating and amazing than sex! Kissing doesn’t always come naturally though, and you definitely don’t want to be a bad kisser. Here’s how you can learn to be a great kisser, no matter who you’re kissing or how good or bad you are at it to begin with!

Question: Do you have any good kissing tips?

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Relax And Start Slow

There’s no need to rush into kissing! Kissing is sensual and passionate, so it’s important to relax and let yourself be in the moment. If you’re too tense and nervous, you’re not going to be kissing very well and your partner will definitely notice your stiffness. Take a few minutes to breathe before you begin kissing and allow yourself to become loose and relaxed. Start slow, and work your way up to more heavy “making out.” You can, of course, continue kissing slow if you want! That’s one of the best things about kissing – it can be whatever you want it to be, whether you want to make out passionately with your partner or kiss them in a slow, delicious, sensual way.

It’s Not A Means To An End

Many couples who have already had sex treat kissing like it is a means to an end and that kissing is simply a short prelude to the actual act of intercourse. These couples need to start treating kissing like couples who haven’t had sex do, and kiss or make out with each other just for the sake of kissing or making out! For most couples that have not yet had sex don’t have anywhere to “go” at the end of the kiss, so they make the kiss last as long as possible! To become a great kisser, don’t think of kissing as first base and your goal as home base. Instead, treat kissing like it’s the only place you have to be or want to go. Let the kissing overcome you and don’t be worried about what is going to happen next.

Practice Good Oral Hygiene

Many great kissers become bad kissers not because of their technique, but simply because of their poor oral hygiene. Practice great hygiene and your partner may not notice your actual kissing ability. Instead, they’ll be thinking about how great your mouth tastes and smells! Instead of just chewing gum and using breathmints, which only serve to cover up unsavory smells and tastes, actually get your mouth clean. Visit your dentist regularly for cleanings and have any infections or cavities treated and taken care of. Brush your teeth daily or twice a day, and floss daily as well. Common dental problems like cavities, plaque and gum disease can make your breath smell and taste bad, making your partner not want to kiss you no matter how good you are. If you put your oral hygiene first, you’ll become a great kisser by proxy and then you can spend time working on your actual techniques to take being a good kisser to the next level and become a great kisser!

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If you are in your twenties and you have a low sex drive, you are not alone. So many women are struggling to keep up with their man when it comes to getting intimate. Men are complaining all the time about having to make do with their hands or having to wait until she runs out of alibis to make an aggressive move.

There are so many reasons why women experience this phenomenon in their twenties. They are a few decades away from menopause and they shouldn’t have trouble with hormones yet. However, the reality is that women avoid sex and are quite happy to never have sex during an ordinary work week.

I’m not a psychologist or a doctor, but I have a few ideas on why female sex drive plummets in the 20′s.

Unsatisfactory First Experiences

This applies particularly when the woman experienced sex early in life. Think of how many high school seniors have done it at the back of a pickup truck or under the stars in the park. A woman’s first sexual experience lingers in her head, and could affect the way she views sex.

Oftentimes, you will hear women say “sex is overrated.” You have to wonder when that idea came about. Maybe her first few sexual encounters left her bored or in pain. Maybe she has never experienced this so-called orgasm.

This doesn’t just apply to women who were sexually abused. Even girls who led a perfectly normal sex life often say “no” because they think there’s nothing to really look forward to.

Priorities

A twenty-something woman has many other things to focus on besides sex. First is her career. She wants to go as far as she can at work before she settles down. So what if she has to sacrifice a few nights with her husband or boyfriend to finish work? Some women spend the whole decade of their 20′s to improve their career.

Next is her looks. When she’s not thinking of ways to get a promotion, she is worrying about her looks. If she has to sacrifice sex for a whole night with her bright blue, anti-aging facial mask on, so be it. Some girls also worry that their hair will look limp and lifeless if they don’t sleep with curlers on.

Negative Body Image

In addition to skin care, a woman might be too concerned about her “worsening” figure during her 20′s. Metabolism is slowing down, and she realizes she cannot pig out like she used to do during high school. Even if the weight gain isn’t drastic, a woman’s sexual self-esteem could plummet.

It is no secret that a woman’s sex drive suffers if she thinks her body looks hideous when she is naked. Some men never notice, but women who often want the lights closed during sex have a growing suspicion that their body is a turn-off.

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It happens to everyone – you know, that awkward silence  or conversation dead zone during a date where neither you nor your partner are sure what to say next. Are silences always uncomfortable, or can it be a good thing sometimes? Here’s how to enjoy the silence from time to time, but also how to plan things to ask so you and your partner can have great conversations and really get to know each other!

Question: I want to know what to say when it gets all silent when you’re talking to girl, because I really don’t know what to say next! I feel like I’ve already talked about everything. Please help, thanks!

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Silence Isn’t Always A Bad Thing

Having a few quiet moments during a date isn’t so bad, especially if you’re having a meal together. You and your partner need time to actually eat! Society conditions us to be around noise all the time, through television, radio and the Internet. Most people’s homes nowadays aren’t quiet at all – there’s always some kind of noise or talking going on in the background. So naturally, people begin to feel comfortable around constant noise and are actually made uncomfortable by being in silence. Sometimes silence is good. However, there is a big difference between that good old fashioned “comfortable silence” and the awkward kind that can go on a bit too long. Here’s how to combat the latter.

Learn More About Her

While you may be tempted to talk on and on about yourself because you’re A) not really sure what questions to ask her and B) you’re afraid of letting the conversation die, talking only about yourself on the first date is the quickest way to throw away your chance at a second date. Take some time to plan  out some different types of questions to ask your date so you can get to learn more about her. Ask her questions about her day, where she works, what she likes and what her favorite things are. Ask her what she might do in different hypothetical situations. Believe it or not, these types of questions can help you learn a lot about a person! Be prepared to answer the same questions yourself. You may find that a lot of questions open up new conversations!

Use A Cheat Sheet

 If you’re talking to your partner on the phone, having a cheat sheet full of questions you want to ask is a great way to keep the conversation going. While some dead time is almost always acceptable during a face to face date, dead time on the phone usually isn’t. Need some help thinking of questions to ask your date to keep the conversation going? Use Michael Webb’s 1000 Questions For Couples. It’s a comprehensive guide absolutely chock full of tons of questions that you can ask your partner – and not just the usual ones that you hear all the time. These questions will really get the ball rolling on a date. They’re also great questions to ask even if you’ve been in a committed relationship with someone, because many of these questions you probably won’t know the answer to even if you’ve been with your partner for years!

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There are a number of different birth control methods that work well to drastically reduce the risk of pregnancy or contracting sexually transmitted diseases, but many guys insist on trying birth control methods that don’t really work at all! A lot of guys want to pull out, simply because it feels better than wearing a condom. Here’s why you shouldn’t pull out and how you can have safe sex that still feels great.

Question: Hey Dan and Jennifer, I’m 19 and my boyfriend is 23. He wants to use the withdrawal method, but it’s not always effective! How do I tell him?

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Why Pulling Out Doesn’t Work

Simply put, if a penis touches a vagina without protection, there is a risk of pregnancy involved. Even if there is no penetration, if there is genital to genital touching, the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease or becoming pregnant goes up. This risk, of course, goes up the more contact there is. Consider the penis a loaded gun. There are most likely sperm present before ejaculation, whether it is because ejaculation took place not long before, or because pre-semen or pre-ejaculate can contain sperm as well. It takes only one sperm to get a woman pregnant, although millions are present in very small amounts of semen. Not only are you taking a risk of becoming pregnant or getting an STD simply by allowing a penis to touch your vagina without some sort of protection, you are also taking a greater risk by trusting your partner to pull out at just the right time when he’s on the brink of orgasm. This usually ends in disaster! Statistically speaking, the withdrawal method has a pregnancy rate similar to having completely unprotected sex.

Other Methods Of Birth Control

Condoms, of course, are the number one form of birth control. They are easy to purchase, easy to use and protect against both pregnancy and STD’s. No other form of birth control does all those things. However, if you’d like to forgo using condoms, there are many different kinds of birth control you can use so you can still have great sex safely. First, you and your partner need to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Make a committment to each other that you will be monogamous, so once you and your partner are given the green light, you can continue to stay disease free without a condom. Do not have sex without a condom until both of your test results come back! To protect against pregnancy, talk to your doctor about different forms of birth control. Hormonal birth control, such as the pill, the patch or the shot are popular, while barrier methods such as spermicide and diaphragms are also still being used. You can also consider doubling up with a hormonal and barrier birth control method. Talk to your doctor and talk to your partner about which options are right for you.

No Glove, No Love

If you want your partner to wear a condom, he needs to wear a condom. If he doesn’t, simply put your foot down and state that there isn’t going to be any sex without a condom. If you’re not comfortable with the withdrawal method or other forms of birth control, your partner needs to respect that. There are tons of great condom styles out there, including large and small condoms, non-latex condoms for men who are allergic to latex, flavored and scented condoms, colored condoms, glow in the dark condoms and much, much more! There’s no reason that using a condom during sex can’t make it safe and fun!

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If there’s a girl you aren’t able to give an orgasm to, you’re not alone. Unfortuately, being in the same boat with tons of other guys doesn’t exactly make being unable to pleasure a certain girl any less frustrating. So what gives? Is there really something wrong with you, or is it time to accept what happened and move on? Could she have even contributed to the problem?

Question: I recently went through a fairly rough break-up but often find myself thinking about my ex. We were together for almost two years and in this time I could never make her orgasm (a first for me). I am quite well endowed and very fit and have never had trouble making others girls climax, but my inadequacies with her have really effected my confidence. What can I do to get over my insecurities and be comfortable with my inability to pleasure her?

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Moving On

If there’s a certain girl you can’t give an orgasm to – but have no problems with any other girls – there’s not much you can do about it. Sometimes it hit or miss, and if you’ve been lucky so far, you’ve simply come upon your dues. It’s time to move on, especially if you and this particular girl aren’t together any more and have broken up. You may want to brood over what happened and try to figure out why you weren’t able to give her an orgasm, but it’s really not going to do you much good. Many times, there is no why and things like that just happen. Sometimes two people are sexually incompatible, no matter how many other girls you were sexually compatible with. Realize that it’s time to move on and get back in the game.

Brushing Up On Your Orgasm Skills

That said, it never hurts to brush up on your orgasm skills. You may think you know all there is to know about female orgasms, but you’d be surprised at how much you probably don’t know about giving a woman a climax. Take the Orgasm Quiz and assess your orgasm skills. You’ll get the Top 25 Female Orgasm Tips after you take the quiz, which are free and include twenty five great tips on how to please a woman. Learning new tricks and techniques to use in the bedroom is a great way to make sure you know what you’re doing and can try to give every girl you’re with a mind blowing orgasm.

Was It Her?

While you may be content to blame yourself and commit yourself to learning every female orgasm secret known to man, you need to realize that part of the reason you were unable to give your partner an orgasm could be because of her hang ups, not yours. Don’t be so fast to completely blame her, but realize that it takes a lot on the woman’s part to have an orgasm. She must be relaxed, stress free and open to having an orgasm. If she was stressing about a test or work the next day, or going through some particularly stressful situations, she may have been unable to reach climax regardless of how great your bedroom skills were.

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Women who enjoy sex are much happier than those who don’t. Sex can make you smile all day and make you bloom like a flower. If you have an active sex life, you feel sexier and more alive.

Some women claim that it’s the constructive and romantic relationship that is making the sex awesome. Some say the sex is great that’s why the relationship keeps getting better. From any angle, it’s unmistakeable that sex plays a huge role in making any loving relationship a success.

But what if your relationship with your partner continues to flourish even if your sex life has started to falter? You are still living together, you’re talking like old buddies and you enjoy watching movies and television shows together. You do not share a long French kiss but you peck each other on the cheek before you leave for work. Is that enough to keep your relationship going?

Some women might say yes, it’s enough. But a sizable majority would probably disagree. Sexual intimacy is something that a relationship must have or it’s going to hit the skids anytime soon.

So, what can you do if you want a better sex life and you want to share intimate moments with your partner again? You lay down some ground rules

Share Sexual Fantasies

You should never feel ashamed about your fetishes. Everyone has some kinky thoughts every now and then, and yours should not make you feel embarrassed. One way to improve sexual intimacy with your partner is to tell him about your sex fantasies, no matter what they are. Doing this will give him an idea of what you like, and he can think of some ways to please you more in the bedroom.

Encourage Intimate Touching

Remind your partner that touching is essential to make a woman feel secure and safe. Touching often does not have to lead to sex, but if it does, you both should go with the flow. Some men feel pressured when their partner touches them intimately. They feel pressured to perform.

Female Masturbation

I know a lot of women who try to keep the fact that they masturbate a secret from their partner. Some women feel like they are cheating on their partner. A woman should not feel ashamed of the fact that she pleasures herself. In fact, the next time you have sex, you must be able to show your partner how you do it.

Having sex daily might be impossible if you have chores at home and you have to deal with stress in the workplace. However, you should never assume that the intimacy requirement could only be met with actual penetration. You can strengthen the sexual tension between you and your partner by acting sexual towards each other whenever you can.

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Getting a woman in the mood is not as difficult as you may think. But we have to admit, it gets harder and harder to create the right mood for some frisky lovemaking when you’ve been with a woman for a while. Unlike that time when you just started dating, the intervals between the days she wants sex get longer and longer.

I have no doubt that you know exactly what I’m talking about. Sometimes her rejection of your advances has a lot to do with the girl’s approachability. But more often than not, it’s the fact that you’ve run out of ideas on how to turn her on. You figure she has seen and heard everything that you have to offer, and that flirting with her will seem like you’re just reprising the role of the horny boyfriend who wants to jump her all the time.

If you can’t help but to overdo the physical side of your relationship, here are some ways to make sure you don’t leave the emotional aspect alone. A woman gets turned on based on what she’s feeling, whether or not you’re touching her.

Romance Her

Much to the dismay of women, some guys don’t know (or have forgotten) how to romance a woman into bed. Don’t get me wrong. Most women love sex, and they’d go all out when the sex is good. However, women need a different set of stimuli to get it going. We can do with a good cleavage view, or simply the thought that we can get laid, but women need more than that. They want to feel like they’re being wooed rather than being used as objects.

During foreplay, you have all the opportunity to make a woman express her needs to you. Tune in to her mood and go from there. If she’s tired, start slowly. If she’s angsty or even angry, you can rough her up a bit in a sexy way.

Make Her Feel Sexy

Women go into power trips several times during sex, but we often don’t notice these moments because we’re wrapped up in our own fantasies and sexual thoughts. If you want to open the doors to friskier sex, you’d better pay attention when a woman tries to impose her own brand of power while you’re doing it.

For example, here’s how you can make her do oral sex on you longer. While she’s down there, tell her how sexy she looks and that you love it when she does that to you. You can tell her to keep going, but make sure you shower her with a lot of compliments to get her in the mood. If you do this right, you’re going to get something more than the 30-second, obligatory sucking.

Show Her You Want Her

Showing a woman you’re in the mood can be done in more ways than one. Don’t go for the cliches like flowers and jewelry. Although a bath and an erotic massage are great, getting her to that point needs some doing. What you can do is to pursue her like you’re just going out. Show up at her workplace and ask her out on a date, or ask her to go with you somewhere for a couple of drinks. Think of it like you’re hitting on her again, and you’ll set the mood for some frisky lovemaking easily.

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A huge turn off for a lot of people is bad breath. There’s nothing that will kill a sexy mood like getting a whiff of your partner’s bad breath when you’re leaning in for a kiss or getting hot and heavy on your way to the bedroom. So how do you tell your partner they have bad breath without offending them, and how can you treat it so it doesn’t happen again?

Question: Hey Dan and Jennifer, sometimes when I am with my boyfriend, he has bad breath. I find it a real turn OFF. How can I tell him without hurting his feelings? His oral hygiene is really good, just sometimes he has bad breath … any advice?

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Be Honest

It’s important to be honest with your partner about their bad breath. Wouldn’t you want someone to tell you if you had bad breath? Of course! Give your guy a heads up about what is going on in a kind and non-critical way. Don’t act like your breath doesn’t ever stink, either because it most certainly does! Everyone has bad breath problems from time to time, whether it’s a medical condition or simply because of something they ate. Have a laugh about it! Your guy isn’t going to get his feelings hurt unless you’re mean about the issue or unless he’s really, really super sensitive. Let him know that it’s not really that big a deal – just that you two need to fix it so you can kiss, make out and have sex whenever without having to worry about bad breath.

What Causes Bad Breath?

There are a lot of contributors to bad breath, and not all of them are just foods. Medical issues that can cause bad breath are cavities, infections in the teeth or gums and gum disease. Often, bad breath caused by these conditions is some of the worse bad breath that is out there! Vitamins, supplements and certain medications can also cause bad breath, as well as doing illegal drugs and smoking. Diseases such as diabetes can also contribute to or cause bad breath. If your partner suspects that his bad breath is a medical problem, have him speak to his doctor about things that can be contributing to his bad breath, such as medications or diseases. Your partner’s doctor can rule out any serious causes for his bad breath and even give him a few pointers on how best to handle it.

How To Handle It

Encourage your partner to have regular cleanings and to have cavities filled if they’re needed. Make sure your partner brushes at least twice daily and flosses once a day. You’ll be surprised at how big a difference these little things can make! Even skipping a six month cleaning with the dentist can contribute greatly to bad breath that can’t be fixed with gum or mouthwash. For things that can be fixed with gum and mouthwash, make sure you stock up on plenty of it! Keep it at home, in the car and in your purse so you always have it around. Lead by example and let your partner see how great your kisses can smell and taste! He’ll want to follow in your footsteps and get a minty fresh mouth of his own.

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Age differences between a two people who are dating are becoming more and more common. As Internet dating becomes more popoular and as people become more openminded in an evolving society, age doesn’t necessarily mean a whole lot these days. However, when does age matter when dating a younger woman or a younger man? Are there ways to keep dating outside of your “age range” safe for both you and your partner?

Question: Hey Dan and Jennifer, this girl and I have been talking and she and I both really like each other, but our age difference is substantial, however, I don’t see a problem with it. She still likes me but she is nervous to be with me. What is your advice on my situation?

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The Older You Get, The Less It Matters

When you get older, an age difference between you and your partner matters less and less. For example, if you’re 75 and your partner is just 60, it’s less of an issue than if you’re 32 and your partner is 17. If you or your partner are currently middle age, then there is even less to worry about. If you are 40 and your partner is 55, you’ll find that people are actually surprised that you’re fifteen years apart! If you’re young, however, the age difference can easily become a big deal. Even just a few years in this case can be a problem. If you’re 16 and your partner is 18 or even 19, you’ll notice that a lot of people have something to say about dating a younger woman or man.

Take It Slow

When you’re young, don’t be afraid to take it slow if you and your partner are a few or several years apart. There’s nothing wrong with taking it slow and it can pose less of an issue if you and your partner are dating without being sexually active, depending on your age. This comes into play more often if one partner is under the age of eighteen and one partner is over the age of eighteen. The younger man or woman may want to wait until they turn eighteen before the couple takes the relationship to the next level. Regardless of the age difference, however, make sure you and your partner are both ready to take that step if the time comes. If you aren’t, there’s no reason to rush it!

When It Becomes A Legal Problem

Legally, eighteen is the age in which people can give consent to have sex. If you or your partner are under the age of eighteen and one of you is over, it can become a legal issue when sex becomes involved. A vindictive parent may decide they want to press charges for “statutory rape” or “corruption of a minor” even if the “victim” is just a few weeks or even days shy of being eighteen. Parents can press charges even if the “victim” was fully consenting of the sexual act. The statute of limitations on this kind of charge is long enough that you could be in trouble well after your partner turns eighteen. If both partners are under the age of eighteen, the issue becomes less of a problem as both parties involved are considered minors. However, once one partner turns eighteen, legally you and your partner can get in more trouble than it was worth. The best thing to do in a situation like this is play it safe and wait!

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