Why do men who cheat try to portray themselves as victims?
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idatemarriedmen.com visitor BrownEyedBettie wants to know:
I’ve seen so many women baffled over how they can keep their man from straying or men who cheat saying how their wife wasn’t giving them the attention they deserved or something of that sort. Why do these men try to get people to feel sorry for them and put the blame on women who did nothing wrong? Why can’t a man just be a man and admit when they messed up and accept responsibility?
Why do men who cheat try to portray themselves as victims? help from other idatemarriedmen.com visitors…
Haha! too rare to find that kind a man. They dont like to think ‘they’ made a mistake. There is always something you did that pushed them to what they did. .Why? Cause every marriage has its ups and downs, so instead of acting like a man and dealing with the problems, they pick the easier way, go out and be with others, cheat. Some guys never change, no matter what and to them, there is always a rason as to why they cheated. Sad eh?…
I hate to break it to you, but a lot of the time, men don’t cheat just for the hell of it. There is usually something going on at home that is the catalyst. A happy marriage is the responsibility of BOTH partners. Believe it or not, women CAN make men unhappy, and not all women give their man the proper respect, attention and love.
i would love to know that
Because they are PIGS and are trying to justify their unfaithful stinking lying selves! That’s why….. It’s always easier to avoid guilt and responsibility and consequences for our own mistakes, failures screw ups by pointing the finger elsewhere. Cheating women do it too.
Poor poor me….. it really stinks!
Guilt, they don’t want others to judge them harshly, they want to feel justified in their behaviors, stupidity…lord only knows.
Because it’s all your fault!
Because it’s usually not as simple as that. Being denied emotional and physical affection from the woman you committed to spending your life with can alter your perceptions of morality. Call it rationalization if you like.
Because we got it like that….
Why is it that women never want to have sex, but when we find someone to have sex with, they get mad?
We men learned that tactic from women.
When you are in the wrong blame the spouse.
Eventually, they will be so busy defending themselves that they will forget you were in the wrong to begin with.
I have to stand up for the man here. not all of them are like that. you got to pick the right one. a man who really loves a lady is not one bit interested in any other lady. he is just one of the looser out there.
You know what puzzles me even more – although yours is good?
Women who stay in abusive relationships. That one always blows me away – well, i *did* make that tuna sandwich wrong so I deserved a 4 hour belt whipping. geezus. freaking amazing.
The same reason women try to control and dominate their husbands by refusing to have sex with them.
Men who cheat typically lack the character traits of responsibility and accountability. In plain language, men who cheat not only blame others, but they will blame others for anything else they believe they can get away with. Typically, these men have a victimization mentality and look for people to feel sorry for them.
Mature men with character will accept responsibility for their actions and remain accountable to themselves and others for their actions. These men understand they are not victims but rather that they have choices they can and do make.
Men who cheat lack character and integrity. Therefore, they will seek to blame others rather than accepting that they have made the choice to be unfaithful.
Hope this helps!
The same can be said for women
Why do some women who cheat try to portray themselves as the victims? Let’s not resort to limiting it to one sex over the other.
It is all about immaturity, inability to admit wrong, and manipulation. These people need to seek counseling.
because all men are dogs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
First off, I don’t condone cheating, that said..
It takes two people to keep a marriage afloat. If there is sexual problems that are not worked out it just festers. Both sexes are apt to play the blame game if they get caught.
Sadly, even though the ultimate choice to cheat is the responsibility of the cheater, the lack of sex and or intimacy can still be the catalyst.
The spouse that refuses to meet those basic needs for their mates should really figure out why and correct that or be willing to admit their part.. yes, you read it right… their part by way of apathy/neglect.
Rejection hurts, especially if it is a regular occurance, it hurts men every bit as much as it hurts women.
Right wrong or otherwise, being with an uninterested spouse can really make it seem an acceptable alternative to breaking up a family.